Blog 4

Question 1
On page 72, bell hooks states "Even in households where no adult male caregiver is present, women taught and teach children sexist thinking." What kind of sexist thinking do you think is being taught to children and how would feminist go about changing that? Also, why do you think a woman would teach her children sexist thinking? Or is it even intentional?
-I think the type of sexist thinking that children are being taught are the simple stupid roles, such as women HAS to be a housewife, or a mom. A man HAS to be the “Head of The House Hold” I think especially in the 1950sish that I was how things were supposed to be and if your child did not fit the form they were out casted, and I do not think ANY parent wants their child to be the “weird one”

Question 2
Hooks notes that no one wants to call attention to women abusing children. After viewing the video below, why do you think people have done so little to calling attention to this abuse by mothers? What was your reaction to this video? Do you think it was abuse?

-There is a book called The Child It. It is a true story about a boy who grew up in one of the worse known child abuse cases reported. He was only abused though, by his mother. It is one of the worse stories I have ever read.



-In response to the video : I think like any videos about abuse it is sad. And yes I do think it is abuse, yelling is not good for a child and I doubt they enjoy it at all. I think moms had of get a slack because moms (women) are not seen as these monsters.


Ch14
Question #1

Bell hooks states “Women having the freedom to be non-monogamous, whether we
exercise that freedom or not, continues to disrupt and challenge the notion
that the female body belongs to men” (hooks, 2000, pg 80-81). Watch the video
below and respond to the following questions: Her decision to forego her
modeling career to reserve her body solely for her husband was a bold choice.
What are your opinions on this? Is this an example of the suppression of a
woman’s sexual freedom and expression? How does this video correspond with the
ideas presented in chapter 14?

-I think it is her body and she can do what she pleases with it. She is a gorgeous woman that knows that she doesn’t need to be a “model” to be a role model. When she talks about how her little niece or cousin wanted to stop eating because she wanted to look like her, I think it was a bold move for her to come out and say she wants to stop showing her body to people who really shouldn’t be looking at it anyway. I agree with her when she say is saving her body solely for her husband, I think it takes a lot to do that so good for her.
-I do not think that it is an example of the suppression of a women’s sexual freedom, I think it was her personally choice and this is what she wanted to do. So if she would have kept being a victoria secret model isn’t her body more belonging to men, instead of it being for herself and just her husband?


Question #2


Bell hooks states, “Marriages built on a sexist foundation are likely to be deeply
troubled and rarely last” (hooks, 2000, pg 83). It’s clear that hooks believes
that traditional gender roles in marriage make for an unequal and dissatisfying
union, clarifying that her definition of sexism is equal or comparable to
patriarchy. It could be argued that hooks would disagree with a traditional
marriage. To bring to life an example of this let us take for instance a
stereotypical traditional marriage. The Catholic Church is known for this ‘sacred union’ between a husband and wife. Today, 50% of marriages end in divorce. We question what you suggest is the solution to a fulfilling marriage? Describe what you think this looks like and why it would be successful. Also, if you are able, describe a marriage that youwould consider ‘loving’ and ‘flourishing.’

-I suggest the solution to a fulfilling marriage is to not rush into a marriage. I think too many people marry to just be married and for the sweet party and planning of it. I think that if two people are completely in what they think is love then let them get married. I know in the Catholic Church and many other churches one has to go to multiple sit down sessions with the priest and discuss their faith with their marriage. I think this is a great thing, if one does not want to be religious then maybe some kind of therapy to see if it is a good idea to get married.

I think a successful relationship is a simple happy couple. People fight it is enevitable, but I think if you can find someone worth fighting with it is okay. I think that a strong relationship does involve God and the church.

A popular marriage I can see as ‘loving’ and ‘flourishing’ is Kate Middletons and Prince Williams. I think they have a great relationship. It was obviously not set up, it was not rushed, and they have had some ups and downs. (yes I watched the Life Time movie). But I think in pop culture and the media it is hard to find couples that have outlasted the test of time. I look at my parents as great examples. My mom and dad will celebrate their 40th wedding anniversary this weekend. 40 years that is a long ass time to wake up to the same person every morning. They love each other and I am sure it was not easy. Divorce is not something I am familiar with, no one in my immediate or extended family have ever been through that.